Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts

Monday, July 2, 2012

9 Confidence Building Techniques That Will Help You Ace Anything!


How-To-Build-Confidence9 Confidence Building Techniques That Will Help You Ace Anything!

Having a high level of confidence can do wonders in every aspect of your life from your physical appearance to your sleeping patterns. It is proven that people with a lot of confidence are more successful, healthy, and enjoy a more fulfilling life.
Below are our ’9 confidence building techniques that will help you ace anything’.



1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

comparing yourself to others
One of the most effective self-confidence building techniques that will immediately improve your confidence is to stop comparing yourself to others. This is trouble and in reality, you only see a small slice of how that person really is. Everyone, thinks, feels, learns and sees things differently. You are the only person on this planet with your ability, it may not be some sort of super-human power you posses but the possibilities in you and the way you do things will be endless and different to everybody else, no two fingerprints are the same. Remember that!
When you compare yourself to other people you tend to compare yourself to the one person who you believe has it best in life. This is definitely not a good way to assess yourself. Instead worry about what it takes to be someone that you like yourself. You would be shocked at how much happier people who like themselves are than people who do not.


2. Always Make Eye Contact

Most people are incredibly afraid of how other people will judge them in a multitude of different situations. By making eye contact you tell yourself that you are worthy, unafraid, and confident. You also send the same message to the other person/people that you are talking to.
A little trick I find that works is to look between their eyebrows in the center of their head, this is less intimidating for you as you are not looking directly into their eyes but from where they are standing it looks like you actually are. Just make sure you are not staring to hard, and are not too up close and personal like the picture we have featured to the left, this may intimidate the person you are conversing with and this defeats the purpose of lowering room for judgement.
At first many people have to force themselves to make eye contact for quite some time before it becomes a habit. However, you will find that once you get into a habit of making good eye contact you will naturally feel more confident in all situations and scenarios.


3. Exercise & Healthy Eating

Exercise-&-Eat-HealthyAppearance is the number one cause for low self-esteem around the world. Improving your physical appearance can do wonders for your confidence. Exercising often is the best way to make yourself both feel better and look better.
Exercise of any kind will release endorphins which are chemicals released by the brain during exercise that enhances that feel good mood and sends a pleasurable feeling through your body. Exercising on a regular basis will improve anyone’s physical appearance and subsequently their self-confidence. You feel good, you smile more. You smile more you feel more confident, there’s a pattern here isn’t there?
Do know, that 70% of weight loss starts with your dieting, so find a diet that works for you and implement an exercise routine that you are happy with. Just make sure it is a routine you enjoy otherwise your fitness regime will be short lived and you will see little to no improvement.

4. Dress Sharp

Dress Sharp - Self ConfidenceHave you ever heard the saying “when you look good, you feel good”? There is a lot of truth to that old saying. When you dress sharp it has a positive physiological effect resulting in improved interactions with other people. You will also feel changes in the way that you carry yourself, which enhances your level of comfort in every day situations.
Dressing sharp is an easy and immediate way to increase your confidence. This has been studied and proven to be very effective in immediately increasing confidence levels.


5. Compliment Others Often

complimentGet in the mindset of thinking positive. This will allow you to see the good in people and compliment them on their strong points. So how is this going to help boost your self-esteem? Well, when you compliment others you are ten times more likely to get a sincere compliment in return. This will reinforce your strong points and push your positive characteristics to the fore front of your self assurance. Go easy on the compliments though, you don’t want to come across as a groupie.


6. Help Those Less Fortunate

While this may seem counter productive to your happiness, helping those less fortunate is one of the most empowering feelings in the world. Those who do community service often have incredibly high self esteems, self confidence, and a great outlook on life.
The empowering feeling of helping others builds self confidence in yourself and helps you to realise that you are abe to make an impact in this world.
Tony Robbins said it best - ”The secret of living is giving.”


7. Face Your Fears & Don’t Fear Failure

This a huge reason for low level of confidence in millions of people. Our fears have incredible control over us and affect the way we feel about ourselves. When we fear something we feel weak which is the same as not feeling confident. In order to overcome this you have to face your fears in life. Do not avoid the things that you are incredibly afraid of. The better way to go about it is to face your fears and get to understand what you fear instead of running from it.
Learn to never fear failure. Everyone in life fails numerous times. A couple of failures will not define your life. The way you respond to these failures is what defines you.
  

8. Carry ‘Confidence’ With You

Increase ConfidenceCarry it with you, just not on your shoulders. Now what I mean by this is you should not look like you are trying to be confident and stressing about how you come across.
There are a number of ways that you can exude confidence physically and here are a handful we have to share with you:


- Speak clearly and with a reasonable volume
- Be conscious of your posture
- Don’t cross your arms as this shows insecurity
- Use your hands to explain things, this helps to draw your crowd a vivid picture of your explanations


9. Fake It, Til You Make It

Fake-It-Til-You-Make-ItWe have all heard this term used before but it is very applicable when it comes to self-confidence.
If you find yourself in a situation where you feel vulnerable and not very confident, this is the time to switch on your fake it to make it mind set. Use the characteristics of confident people and apply them to your immediate situation. Look for a role model in the moment, someone you look at as a confident and charismatic person, whether it be a character, a movie star or someone that you have felt comfortable around before.
These will become habits of your own within time and will definitely pay off.


Cheers!


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Tuesday, June 26, 2012

16 Reasons Why It's So Important To Follow Your Dreams


The 16 Reasons Why It It's So Important To Follow Your Dreams


1. The secret of living is giving, if you follow your dreams then you will have something worth sharing with others, hope, inspiration and a meaning to live, and that to me, is a great contribution.
2. Chasing your dreams will develop your courage. Courage is your fuel to achieve amazing success in life, follow your dreams and exercise courage. In sure enough time you will be unstoppable.
3. There is a reason why as kids we loved magic and dreams. Stop chasing your dreams and you will forget how it feels to live hopeful and young.
4. Great dreamers grow to be independent, learning that they can make a difference all by themselves.
5. Dreams can distract you from the negative events in life. You will weigh up what is more important, your dreams or the drama. Drama seems obsolete when you are passionate about following your dreams.
6. It gives you something to share and inspire your kids with, you have led by example that anything is possible when you put your mind to it.
7. Through accomplishing your dreams you will come to appreciate the experience of failure and know that failure is just part of success and that it wasn’t really all that bad as it was all worth it in the end.
8. Regret is a terrible thing, and a dream is powerful enough to bring you regret if you don’t take the chance to at least follow it.
9. Because you are never too old to dream. Age means nothing when we know what we want.
10. You become an interesting person, you show others you have meaning, direction and purpose.
11. The unknown of following your dreams may spark a little fear, this is okay though because a little fear is known to make you feel more alive.
12. It is fun proving the world wrong, so why would you follow the status quo?
13. The more you chase and accomplish your dreams the more the lines of the boundaries that the world puts in front of us fade, as we learn that any and everything is possible.
14. When you accomplish your dream, you are the first to see it happen. You can share your accomplishments with the rest of the world but you where there in the front row on a single chair to experience the magic that unfolded.
15. Your dreams have no limits, you are the creator of your dreams, big or small. When this is understood, you are able to design a way to favour you plan and accomplish your end goal.
16. A dream is strong enough to define you, once accomplished you prove to others they have no say in who you can and can’t be.

Cheers!

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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Why We Must Experience Failure In Order To Be Successful


What makes one person extremely successful, while another will fail and give up vowing never to try again? Is it due to the fact that the successful one was more intelligent, more experienced, or possesses some sort of god given ability?
Probably not.
In the eyes of society, history tells us that successful individuals triumphed in what they did simply because they failed and never surrendered their passion. They would take failure as being part of the equation if they wanted to achieve success beyond their wildest dreams.
Over the past decade, interviews and research have been conducted to determine whether there was a commonality between some of the greatest people in history. Specifically, it was the pursuit of the so-called “magic formula” that led to this research.
Ultimately, it was concluded that every single person’s success, had to endure some sort of failure in the past. Whether it was emotionally, physically or mentally, they had to overcome at least an obstacle before they could experience success.
Now, the great news is that, success almost always occurs even if you failed 1000 or 100,000 times in your life, as long as you never surrender, the reason being that success is not an absolute destination but is rather a journey.
The biggest problem with failure is that it is a subject that most people hate to talk about. It’s through dealing with failure that we can ultimately gain success. So why isn’t everybody dealing and learning from their failures?
What we are talking about here is the FEAR of FAILURE.
Its humanity’s greatest nemesis and the killer of dreams that bring you success. It is in our innate nature since the dawn of man to feel fear. Fear of actions that could complicate situations which may be life threatening or in this case, fear of being ridiculed for pursuing our dreams and passion. Fear of failure is our natural instinct that separates us from what we want to achieve in life. It scares every dream and passion that you may have.
What you must actually instill in your mindset is that failure is our greatest mentor and that it teaches you what nobody else can. To achieve success, you must first avoid the fear of a possibility of failing to cloud your judgement and to strangle your decision.
As you fail, you puncture a hole deep within your ego, and only then will you begin to learn the important things you couldn’t see before. If you can learn to take failure and never accept defeat, you would inadvertently take up the challenge to fight back even stronger, because of this simple shift in mindset, failure can remedy wonders for people to begin again, this time intelligently.

If you are not convinced. Lessons of failure can be seen in almost every success story in the world. Just like this guy, Charles Forman who is the founder ofOMGPOP who created the hit sensation; “Draw Something“.
Charles Forman had just $1,700 in his bank account the day before he launched “Draw Something“, since then it has been downloaded over 35 million times and was later sold to Zynga for $180 million. So you would ask how he created a one hit wonder in such a short period of time? No, he actually started his game development company 6 years ago and created dozens of games prior to “Draw something“. It was because he never gave up to dozens of failure, that he continued to create better games that led to this magnificent one.

Another inspiring story of a teenage entrepreneur who finally succeeded after failing over 30 times in his previous web ventures was Adam Horwitz. At the age of just 15, he had the dream of making a million dollars with an entrepreneurial idea that would revolutionize the mobile marketing industry.
After 3 years of unsuccessful self-funded ventures,Adam Horwitz finally launched his first successful product, YepText that led to a series of impactful creations that finally propelled him to the million dollar mark at the age of 18. Eventually he was featured on CNN for being the top 8 kid entrepreneurs to watch for 2012 and beyond. All this manifested only after he took those early failures as a legitimate step towards the right direction.
Simply by acknowledging that failure is part of the process in your search for success can be a great stepping stone. When you can stare adversity in the face, you will no doubt have the strength inside of you to achieve anything you set out to achieve.


Cheers!

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